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As we age, loss of independence and other age-related problems can affect our self-esteem. The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology study found that self-esteem is lowest after retirement. Low self-esteem in older adults is linked to elder abuse, limited physical activity and higher pain levels. Pay attention to the older adults in your life with frequent visits, phone calls, emails and packages from children and grandchildren, and provide opportunities for these adults to engage with other people their age. Work with older adults to set limits on what they can and cannot do in terms of exercise and independent living (driving, cleaning, shopping, etc.). Above all, be sure to make your parents an active part of your life. Self-Esteem Family Focus As we age, loss of independence and other age-related problems can For Your Parents A recent study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that self-esteem grows throughout adulthood, peaking around age 60. This can be good news for your body, mind and marriage. Adults with high self- esteem have better overall health as well as better relationships. If you or your partner goes through a period of low self-worth, the relationship can suffer as well. Insecurities about yourself often turn into insecurities about the re- lationship — which leads to fighting and communication breakdowns. Be honest with your partner about any doubts you are dealing with, whether regarding your own self-worth or your feelings about the relationship. Both partners can practice actively affirming the other — feeling love and support from a spouse is a great boost to self- esteem. Consider seeing a counselor if problems related to self-esteem do not improve. If you or your spouse has feelings of worthlessness and depression for more than two weeks, talk with your healthcare provider about screening for a mental illness. " " A recent study published in the Journal of Personality and Social For Your Spouse For Your Children One of the biggest threats to the self-esteem of children is bullying, which includes behaviors such as hitting, name-calling, social isola- tion, or online teasing and threats. More than just a part of growing up, bullying can be a serious risk to your child's health. In addition to the bruises and broken bones that physical bullying can result in, victims of bullies are more likely to experience depression, anxiety and other psychiatric disorders that persist into adulthood. Talk with your children about bullying — including how to safely respond if they feel threatened (by walking away, using humor, getting help or simply saying "stop"). If your child tells you she or he is being bullied, work with other adults, such as teachers and guidance counselors, on ways to prevent the behavior in the future. If your child is the bully, set clear expectations about how your child should treat others, as well as consequences for failing to meet those expectations. When people do not feel empowered to make an impact in their own life, they will have a poor outcome. We have treated patients who remained sick longer because of the mental part of their health and the way they felt about themselves. One of the most important things you can do for a good physical health outcome is to boost self-esteem. —Sheryl Whipkey, BSN, RN, Heart Failure Nurse Navigator at CHRISTUS Hospital – St. Elizabeth Need spiritual or emotional support? Find out how to talk to a chaplain today by visiting www.christushealth.org/echaplaincy. 3 LiveWell | January/February 2014

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