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CONNECT // 15 Language of Love How to Speak the Do you ever wish you could know exactly what it is your spouse needs from you—how you could make him or her happier with a simple word or action? If you can decipher your "love languages," you can. other feel special and keeps him or her happy in a relationship. While you may assume your partner's love language is the same as yours, Dr. Chapman By Acts of service— Is your spouse put in a better mood when he or she finds out you folded the laundry? If so, acts of service may be what shows him or her you care. Your spouse won't necessarily ask you for help, but when you offer unsolicited assistance, it reassures him or her of your love. Be aware of chores or errands you can lend a hand with, such as filling up his or her car with gas for work the next day. Physical touch— Just holding hands or a warm embrace can show a multitude of emotions for lovers of this language. They crave physical touch and a lack of it may create the idea that you don't care. Make it a point to offer even small touches or quick hugs to show your spouse is loved. using author and marriage counselor Dr. Gary Chapman's The 5 Love Languages, you can determine what makes your significant says that people are typically attracted to people who speak another love language. Use our love language guide to help you understand how to better meet your partner's needs, and also understand how you need your love language translated. Quality time—For some, a relationship is best confirmed by spending uninterrupted, quality time with each other. Those who speak this language are best satisfied by dates where your attention is undivided and sincere. Make time in your schedule for walks in a quiet park where you can have quality conversation. Receiving gifts—Small, thoughtful gifts can mean the most for some spouses. They aren't necessarily materialistic, because it's the meaning behind the gift that makes it special. Stopping to pick up his or her favorite snack or treat lets your partner know you were being thoughtful and that you pay attention to what is special to him or her. Words of affirmation—Lovers who need unsolicited compliments and reassurance of love speak this language. Make it a point to give genuine compliments to even your spouse's smallest accomplishments, and don't just say you love him or her—but explain why you do, as well. Beware of any harsh words, which can easily tear him or her apart. You and your significant other can find out your love languages at www.FiveLoveLanguages.com. be + well