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December 15 • 2016 13 "Everybody can enjoy the holidays, and my girls can learn how fortunate they are and how other people are not as fortunate," said Ziff, who lives in Bloomfield Hills. For Rabbi Levi Dubov, who serves as co-director of Chabad of Bloomfield Hills with his wife, Mushky, Chanukah was a time to learn valuable lessons about money and choices. His parents, Dovid and Malky Dubov of Princeton, N.J., gave each of their eight children a sum of money, 10 percent of which they were expected to give to charity. "We learned about the various charities and chose one we wanted to donate to," Dubov said. The kids were then allowed to choose how to spend the remainder of their gifts. "We got a real education about mak- ing healthy and holy choices." Natasha Kendal, Ph.D., who also specializes in "financial psycho- therapy," a form of counseling that addresses the emotional aspects of money and finances, urges parents not to get up in the "Chanukah guilt" that ensues when children ask for the same expensive gifts their friends are receiving. While busy parents often buy extravagant gifts to compensate for the lack of time they spend with their children, Kendal urges these parents to keep in mind that a small- er gift accompanied by a promise of time spent together, such as a game you promise to play with them or an art project you will do together, is better than an expensive toy. "Remember that Chanukah is not a competition," Kendal said. "Parents should realize that the most important gift is their relationship with their children. Regardless of what they may ask for, most children would rather have quality time with a parent than a pile of stuff." She recommends interactive gifts such as board games, puzzles or other items that encourage families or siblings to play together instead of electronic devices, which tend to separate people. Other ideas are tickets to a family play or concert, or memberships to local museums, the zoo or other places everyone can visit together. The word "Chanukah" comes from the same root as "Chinuch," which means education, according to Itty Shemtov, education director at The Shul in West Bloomfield. Shemtov encourages parents to engage chil- dren by explaining the hist orical context of the holiday through books or a family game of dreidel, where parents can explain how the letters relate to the Chanukah story. Kendal also believes it is impor- tant to encourage children to buy gifts for their siblings as well as their parents and grandparents. "It gets them in the habit of giving to other people, and it teaches them the pleasure that comes from making someone else happy," she said. * "Parents should realize that the most important gift is their relationship with their children." – Natasha Kendal, Ph.D Rachel Kapen with two of her children, now 22 and 23 Rabbi Levi and Mushky Dubov 2136790 Have You Been to FREEDS Lately!? 1526 Ottawa Street, Windsor, 5 minutes from Tunnel Call 1-877-5FREEDS (537-3337) Open – Mon-Wed–9:30am-6pm; Thurs – Fri 9:30am-7:30pm; Sat 9-6pm, Sun 12-4pm *Exchange rate may vary from day to day. Dan Orman Ari Freed Your US Dollar now worth $ 1.32 * of Windsor Clothing for Men & Women of Windsor Suit Specialists Choose om more than 10,000 Suits! In sizes to fi t every man! www.freeds.com 2139940 National Council of Jewish Women, Greater Detroit Section provides two nutritious kosher meals delivered daily to your home up to fi ve days a wefi . The service is for those unable to provide for themselves or who have no one to assist them with meal preparation. Meals are prepared, packaged, and delivered from the kitchen of Jewish Senior Life Prentis Apartments by volunteers of NCJW/Greater Detroit. Intake and casework services are provided by Jewish Family Service. The kitchen is under the supervision of the Council of Orthodox Rabbis of Greater Detroit. If you or someone you know is over 60 and… t temporarily unable to prepare meals following a hospital stay t disabled and unable to provide meals for themselves t homebound without someone in their home to help with meals … then home delivered meals is the answer. If you are interested or for more information please call 248-592-2313 Funding is provided by Area Agency on Aging 1-B through the Offi ce of Services to the Aging, and funding through the federal Older Americans Act in compliance with Title V of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, with support from DeRoy Testamentary Foundation and individual donations. VOLUNTEERS ARE ALSO NEEDED TO PACK AND DELIVER MEALS please call 248-967-0967 Are you in need of home delivered meals?